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Dubbed a twenty-first century must read for anyone entering today’s dating
arena, “It Could Happen To You” addresses unhealthy relationships, outlines red
flag behaviors of potential abusers and offer helpful tips to prevent
individuals from succumbing to a life of abuse.
In this book Paulette
Stubbs, author, shares her personal story of how God rescued her from the
clutches of abuse/domestic violence. According to Stubbs, “It Could Happen To
You” was inspired as a result of her experience of being physically, emotionally
and financially abused from a previous marital relationship. “I lived a good
life, we both had good jobs so it seemed so unlikely. I never thought that it
would happen to me, but it did, and this is what led me to write this account,”
she added.
Reflecting on her numerous near death experiences as a result
of being abused, Stubbs said, “To those who choose to accept abusive treatment
or blame themselves, need to understand that what we continue to tolerate, will
never change.” Stubbs noted that it is dangerous to ignore abuse of any kind, be
it emotional, physical, spiritual or financial, and said, “What may begin as a
push, or slap today, may ultimately end in death.”
“It Could Happen To
You,” she further explained, is a message of hope and healing to anyone affected
(directly or indirectly) by abuse; and for those entering the dating arena, it
provides them with tips on how to recognize traits of potentially abusive
persons. “This book is aimed at preventing what I went through from happening to
others, prevention is key, I wish someone else could have given me this
information,” said Stubbs.
Further encouraging Bahamians to read “It
Could Happen To You,” Dr. Barrington H. Brennen, Marriage & Family Therapist
& Nationally Certified Psychologist, USA, said, “I believe that this book
can change lives. It is an excellent tool, from a lay person’s perspective on
the dynamics of abusive relationship.”
Referring to abuse as the secret
killer in our Bahamian society, she noted, “many individuals within our society
believe that abuse is acceptable. Individuals who endure it, usually blame
themselves for the abuser’s behavior and try to change that person.” However, in
her book, Stubbs emphasizes these key points, “Ignoring abuse is dangerous, You
cannot change an abusive person’s behavior, You are not to blame, Get help, and
Do not remain silent I you are being abused.” Stubbs noted that her decision to
flee the abusive environment she endured for years was to demonstrate to her
children that abuse should not be tolerated. “For my kids, walking away from
that environment showed them that they are more important to me than that
marriage was. It also set the standard for every other relationship they may
enter, and reminds them that there is no room for disrespect or abuse, because I
no longer allowed it,” she added.
The official launch of ‘It Could
Happen To You’ was held on Sat. Nov 14, 2009 at Chapter One Bookstore, Oakes
Field. Hon. Loretta Butler Turner, Minister of State, Ministry of Labor and
Social Development received the 1st autographed copy “It Could Happen To You”
and brought remarks. Also in attendance were Dr. Sandra Dean-Patterson, Director
of The Bahamas Crisis Centre, Sherika Brown, Founder of Iron Network Inc. and
Dr. Sandra Fischer, Founder of Women of Essence.
Paulette Stubbs serves
as Deputy Head of Accounting & Operations at a leading offshore bank. She is
also the founder of Heaven Help Us Literature and serves a volunteer to various
youth outreach ministries and civic organizations. She added “If this book saves
just one life from abuse, then what I have been through would have been worth
it”
Books are available locally
at:
Chapter One Bookstore
Logos Bookstore
Nassau Stationers
Ltd
100% Bible Bookstore
or order online at:
www.itcudhappen2you@webnode.com
email:
itcudhappen2u@yahoo.com
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